Response to Tyler # 8

1. Many of the students are my friends and church mates. It is easier to get to know them because i already have built relationships with them. i think this is a vital part to even teaching them. I have been at this church for two years now and have built into it. The problem with practicums is that it is hard to make the lasting relationships with people when you are only there for a semester. i think practicums need to be at least a year long. the connection i have with the people i learn and teach to is far deeper and leaves room for more growth than if i was there only a semester. if you have to be there for only a semester then you need to fight as hard you can about connecting with them out of class. it provides more time and leaves more room for them to open up to you. class time is only an hour long and that is probably not enough. Show them you openness as well, be vulnerable.

2. i think you do need to keep being above reproach. i think if you keep another guy around as you interact with women then you may be more comfortable and will have that upstanding accountability. i think any form of touching should be limited. That means, hugs, shoulder pats, even taps on the shoulder. As a pastor there most likely be times when you need to counsel a person and that person may be a girl.counsel can also get really deep and emotional. When you get into that stuff people can get attached. I have see many cases where women even get attached onto other women. vulnerability just opens up whole worlds. Especially in that case you need to be careful. I almost think that a another women, such as a wife or girlfriend would be a good idea to have with you. the general idea here is never be alone and always keep yourself in situations that will show integrity.